I thought I would address some of the Questions I have received from Family and Friends in regards to my surrogacy. I will also explain in depth what has brought me to this decision in my life. :)
What made you want to be a surrogate mother?
My son has been sick this past week. Coughing, snot everywhere (including on my shoulder and even my hair,) he has been up most hours of the night, and just when I thought he was getting better, he got sick again and gave it to his little sister. As I sat in my daughter's rocking chair, rocking her back and forth after having cleaned up vomit from her bed, the floor and given her a bath, I leaned my head back and could hear her cooing and gurgling like all babies do at 6 months. I smiled with my eyes closed because even though I was physically exhausted from 2 weeks of colds and was suffering from my own migraine, I wouldn't trade any of that for anything. I allowed myself to be removed from the exhaustion and to really be present in the blessing that was my son and daughter. I want with all of my heart and soul, for the world to be filled with good parents. Who will hold their children in the middle of the night and cherish the small moments of precious time with their child who loves them. If I can help a family to have those sleepless, cough filled, quiet, snotty and wonderful nights, then I will! When I think of how much I love my children, and then I think of how much some families want children of their own to love and cherish, it brings me to tears. I can help them!! So by God, I will!
Won't it be hard to give the Intended Parents the baby once it is born?
This is a hard question to answer because I have yet to be in this position, but let me explain how my brain has processed the situation so far. This is a baby that will be genetically not my own. The child will be entirely the Intended Parents. I will be so invested in the happiness of that child's Parents that I doubt I will be sad to hand them their child. I will be excited! Anxious as they will be! I have already resolved in my brain that I am the oven for THEIR bun.
You said you would be willing to work with a Gay couple?
Yes. I believe that the world is filled with happy families of all sorts that are brimming with love and I would be very happy to be matched with either a Straight or Gay couple.
What agency will you be working with?
I am working with Surrogate Alternatives Inc in San Diego. They have made the process so far very easy and answer all my questions in depth.
If you have any other questions please feel free to leave them in the comments and I can edit this post and answer them as they come in. :)