Wednesday, June 26, 2013

Questions and Answers

I thought I would address some of the Questions I have received from Family and Friends in regards to my surrogacy. I will also explain in depth what has brought me to this decision in my life. :)

What made you want to be a surrogate mother?

My son has been sick this past week. Coughing, snot everywhere (including on my shoulder and even my hair,) he has been up most hours of the night, and just when I thought he was getting better, he got sick again and gave it to his little sister. As I sat in my daughter's rocking chair, rocking her back and forth after having cleaned up vomit from her bed, the floor and given her a bath, I leaned my head back and could hear her cooing and gurgling like all babies do at 6 months. I smiled with my eyes closed because even though I was physically exhausted from 2 weeks of colds and was suffering from my own migraine, I wouldn't trade any of that for anything. I allowed myself to be removed from the exhaustion and to really be present in the blessing that was my son and daughter. I want with all of my heart and soul, for the world to be filled with good parents. Who will hold their children in the middle of the night and cherish the small moments of precious time with their child who loves them. If I can help a family to have those sleepless, cough filled, quiet, snotty and wonderful nights, then I will! When I think of how much I love my children, and then I think of how much some families want children of their own to love and cherish, it brings me to tears. I can help them!! So by God, I will!

Won't it be hard to give the Intended Parents the baby once it is born?

This is a hard question to answer because I have yet to be in this position, but let me explain how my brain has processed the situation so far. This is a baby that will be genetically not my own. The child will be entirely the Intended Parents. I will be so invested in the happiness of that child's Parents that I doubt I will be sad to hand them their child. I will be excited! Anxious as they will be! I have already resolved in my brain that I am the oven for THEIR bun.

You said you would be willing to work with a Gay couple?

Yes. I believe that the world is filled with happy families of all sorts that are brimming with love and I would be very happy to be matched with either a Straight or Gay couple.

What agency will you be working with?

I am working with Surrogate Alternatives Inc in San Diego. They have made the process so far very easy and answer all my questions in depth.

If you have any other questions please feel free to leave them in the comments and I can edit this post and answer them as they come in. :)

God Bless!

Tuesday, June 25, 2013

The beginning..

Let me begin this blog with a few things. This blog will be extremely intimate. It will function as a place for me to discuss my emotions, fears, and hope with the journey of becoming a Gestational Surrogate. I want to introduce myself.. I am 26 years old, a mother of two beautiful children, and a former member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. When recently I became aware of certain facts about the Mormon church, I began my own journey of  research and have since left the church.

After I had my daughter, people would ask me if my husband and I were done having children. I would say "Yes we are done." and feel this pull within my soul, as if a little one waiting to come to earth was in my ear saying "No your not! One more, don't forget about me!" I had thought about surrogacy before, but the LDS church was very vocal in their expression against Surrogacy. This bothered me, along with the other facts I learned about the LDS church, so I left. I thought to myself, surrogacy is the answer! I want to bring children to earth for couples who long to have children. I am now on an amazing spiritual journey where I am rediscovering my love for God as a being who loves ALL people, and have been approved for surrogacy with an agency in San Diego!!

Surrogacy will be a very spiritual journey for me as I believe I am bringing a child into the world for a family who God feels deserves the joy and blessing of parenthood. I am also really wanting to work with a Gay couple! This is also new for me, as I would be discouraged from this idea by the LDS church.

I know some people who read this blog post will be disappointed to hear I have left the Mormon church, but please know that I am the happiest I have been in a long time, and that my journey in life and in love has led me to where I am. I am very excited to become a surrogate, and hope you enjoy the journey with me!